You know that you have to stay somewhat calm and keep your thoughts to yourself, but if one more person yanks you in a different direction …omg you are going to explode. Because your at work you keep your mouth shut, of course you do, you don’t want to lose your job…right?
So what does that do for you when you get off work? Are you the only one who wished you were someplace else? No! We all have days where we wish we were someplace else or that the world would disappear. It makes for a tense workplace that normally follows you home. At home the spouse and the kids are usually the ones that you vomit your whole days pent up anger on. The ones you love who really don’t deserve your wrath, however they are suppose to understand when you have a bad day. You don’t mean anything by it and you can’t understand why they get upset.
Instead of letting the day, the month get to you, you need to find your voice and let those people know in the most respected and polite way possible, to back off. It is not an easy task and you do the best you can, however when things begin to pile up, your get angry and it sends you into a sideways behavior. Anger is just a surface reaction to a deeper fear. (Please stop telling me BS, you know I’m right or you would be upset reading this) What fear are those people poking when they keep asking and coming in distrubing you while you try to get things done. Is it the fear of not good enough, or the fear of helplessness, or maybe the fear of failure because you can’t finish what everyone is throwing at you.
What can I do to not let this happen you ask? Well I’m glad you asked.
STOP and visual a PAUSE button when you feel the anger coming on. Take a deep breath and let it out slowly, this will change the pattern of what you normally do. Practice it over and over until you disfuse the anger when everything is coming at you. Then, in a respectful way let the individuals know that you will have what they need in (specify time frame) and you will get it to them then. Also tell them that everytime they interrupt it takes time away from that time frame you gave them and once you have accomplished, then you need to prioritize the job duties and work from the top down. Next by looking at the time frame you will be able to let them know that they are (# ?) on the list and that you will begin their request at that time. This accomplished, you will find that your life is a little more at peace, your home life is a safehaven and your stress level is much lower than before.
A Pause Button is like the Easy Button you’ve seen on TV. It can simplify your life if you choose to use it as a tool for controlling the anger that crops up.
Let me know if you try it and the results. It may not work the first few times, however if you continue using it you will be amazed at the results.