Set your Priorities to what is the most important
What’s truly important to you? Is it Money, your family, your friends, or maybe hobbies? The answer to this question should be how you prioritize your time for each one. Many of us see our job as simply a vehicle to provide the money to do what we like, for others, our job is our passion. Make sure that where you want to go in your life isn’t suffering because of misplaced priorities. Compare your priorities with how you actually spend your time and money. If they don’t match, then you’re lying to yourself. For me, my priorities are God first, me second, my family third and my job comes in fourth.
I have always put God first in my life, however my job was always next because I was raised to make sure my family was taken care of and my bills were paid. I lived this way for many years before I ended up in the hospital… by taking care of everything and everyone else, I did not take that good of care of me and it almost cost me everything. That was the turning point of my life and my thinking. I learned that if I take care of me, everything and everyone else could be taken care of. Set your priorities according to what you consider the most important in your life and not have a Lesson Learned… the hard way!!!
Is your time managing you? Are you managing your time? Take control of your time by changing your focus and creating results. Identify the must have and do’s of your time. Time for yourself (weekends or days off), time for the kids events (school play, sports etc…), time for the wife/hubby (cuddle time, date night).
The next thing you need to discover, what is taking you away from the things you say are important to you. Do you bring work home? Do you allow friends to call anytime just to say hey and catch up on gossip during the time that you have set aside for yourself or family? How many times have you been watching a movie with your spouse or the family and received a phone call from a friend or someone from work and instead of asking them if you could call them back, you got up and talked to them, missing 30 minutes or longer of the movie. Is it worth it? Could it have waited? Are there alternatives…YES there is! Don’t compromise your special time, you can never get it back. The only exceptions… emergencies… and yes if they say it is, then it had better be.
Finally – stick to it.
Draw a line in the sand and learn that it’s ok to say “no“. Stop self-sabotaging your time management. If you don’t know how to tell someone no or not right now, then practice it.
“John, I understand that we did not get a chance to talk about it at work today, however this is the time I spend with my family, can we discuss it in the morning when I get in.”
“Mom, hi, is everything ok? Yes, Great… we are just in the middle of a movie, can I call you back after its over? Thanks..Love ya”
“Terri hi, is everything ok? Awesome, I am at Billy’s game can I call you back later? Great thanks”
Find something that works for you and use it. Trust me the first time you put “you” first you will be bouncing off the walls. Why? Because you didn’t allow someone else, that you probably didn’t want to talk to anyway, mess up your planned evening, your personal time, or your quiet time.
So cut and dried, if you restore control of your life and get your priorities in order imagine the peacefulness you could find. Never think it is not worth it or that it won’t work. You and only you have the control.
Let me know what steps you have taken in restoring control in your life. Email me at firstname.lastname@example.org . I would love to hear from you.
Oh! By the way! This works professionally and well as personally. So don’t allow your work life to run amuck when you can use the same advice.